Friday, February 03, 2006
Oh, those pesky little laws...
Anybody want to share what you have done legally to protect your family, spouse, kids, kids-to-be, etc.? I'm excited about this KD possibility, but my enthusiasm kind of snuck up on me- this is not something I considered much before, so I'm feeling clueless about the laws. I know donor contracts are not always recognized by courts, varying from state to state and from judge to judge, and I reeeeally don't want to wind up in a big visitation/custody battle. I've read (vaguely) of a KD getting awarded basically joint custody even though he signed a donor contract clearly stating the limited contact he would be allowed. So, I like our PKD, and this is not a commentary on him, but I really don't know him, either, not to mention things change bigtime once a baby is on the scene, and I'd like to be careful. So, I'm interested to know any legal differences between going just with a donor contract, going through a "directed donor" process at the sperm bank (which now seems like it will be impossible, since the FDA banned gay men from donating, unless that doesn't apply to "directed donors"), and going through a doctor? The last of which leads me to more questions, about insurance, since the language in our policy manual seems to suggest that our company will not cover any inseminations by a doctor unless one of us turns out to be "medically infertile". It makes me wonder if my doctor could write "bodily aversion to male gonads" on the treatment referral form? I don't think so, and we would really like a gay donor (that the FDA is currently oppressing), so that leads us essentially back to the plain old donor contract. Ack! Anybody have two cents for the cup? Or more questions?
Posted by starevelina at 2:54 PM